Wednesday, January 14, 2015

Avoiding Mortification

I saw an article trending on Facebook today about a woman making a stand after being a victim of revenge porn, when an ex lover shares naked photos or intimate videos of you online after you break up. I had so many thoughts running through my brain and needed to discuss this a little.

Should you be able to express yourself in whatever manner you choose as long as you aren't hurting another individual? Absolutely but it would extremely naive to think certain actions and "expressions" won't possibly have consequences down the line. You should be able to do whatever you want and share photos with your lover but what if you have a fight and you break up? Can you be 100% certain that that individual won't share these photos? Everyone's answer to that question should be no. You never know what someone is fully capable of in certain situations. But why put yourself in the position to be a victim of this horrific and embarrassing act. These photos and videos will never really disappear and could certainly come back to haunt you.

Please don't misunderstand me and say I am victim blaming. When men and women post people's naked photos and videos without someone's consent they are completely in the wrong and should be prosecuted but by the time that happens the damage is already done. I am just simply saying try to avoid putting yourself in precarious situations. You wouldn't go down a dark alley with a wad of cash in your hand by yourself would you? If you get mugged of course the perpetrator should be arrested but the victim could have made smarter decisions that would have possibly prevented an attack.

All I am saying is that we live in a world where we not only need to protect ourselves from physical attacks but one where we need to protect ourselves from cyber attacks. We all need to use a little common sense when creating content that can be shared without our permission. And if you feel it is absolutely necessary to share intimate photos do it smartly, don't show your face which will make it hard for anyone to say it is you.

What are your thoughts? Do you think people who share naked photos are asking for this to happen?


  1. Yes, yes, yes!!! I don't feel you are victim blaming. I think all you are trying to do is remind people to be smart. You never truly know what someone is capable of at all. DOn't make yourself vulnerable like that. It has the potential to come back and haunt/hurt not only you but also your loved ones!